The book Let Go by Fenelon was a book given to me by my husband, and recommended to him by his past mentor and boss, Ezra. Z, thanks for the input. This book has greatly influenced how I view my life and my grasp onto things that I deem important.
Fenelon reminds us that the pain we experience when we try to do what we want isn't our flesh dying, because the dead can't feel, but rather it is our flesh that is living and that needs to die in order to be the people we were created to be.
This book is pretty deep but is luckily written as 30 or so letter to Fenelon's friends and contempories, so read a letter each day for a month and meditate on what it means for your life.